Marriage Response - BP

After reading the articles this week, I find it really interesting how there seems to be no good examples of balancing marriage. We see that the varying authors are either all for marriage or warning readers to avoid it altogether. I know that the opinion of marriage varies from person to person, but I see that most people do aspire to be married. How could we not? All celebrity news, every reality TV show, and every new disney movie ends with marriage and a happily ever after. I see that people tend to model their personal lives and relationship goals around people they don't know and relationships they only see in the media. People wonder why their marriages are failing, but still think that every moment is supposed to be roses and love letters. I am a firm believer in the saying that there is somebody for everybody, and growing up I know we all at some point thought that too. We all have to realize and prioritize the things we find important and be willing to compromise along the journey. Yes, I do think marriage is necessary and is something we should not get rid of just because others have not quite figured it out. It's just all about finding the right balance with the person you choose to be with, like Lisa Miya-Jervis mentions keeping both last names or going against the traditional man-and-wife roles of deciding who cooks or cleans were decisions they both chose to make to better the bond within their own marriage (375). She concludes the article by stating, she won't forget everything that feminists before her have fought for, in regards to the previous struggles of marriage, but that she will "forge a new vision of what marriage is "(376). That's how we all should approach it, taking out the outdated parts and making it work by our own standards.