In this week’s listing of articles, I enjoyed reading the article Shame-O-Phobia by David Wexler. This article really brought a new perspective into the course of women’s studies. We often push aside the male point of views and deem them as being unwanted and invalid in attempt to only hear about women’s opinions and issues. It was interesting to see that the things women are “expected” to do, or things women do not think twice about are the same things that men are ashamed to do openly. The author brought up a good point about men having feelings, but they are not able to put them into words or actions, because they weren’t trained to do so. When was the last time someone called a little girl a cry baby or told her that she’s not supposed cry in front of other people? So why have we continued to do so with little boys? This only causes deep rooted issues that travel along with them into adulthood, and makes them want to be seen as macho. So much so that they lose sight of reality because they are so deep into their own fantasy world of trying to prove themselves and remain as manly as possible. He stated that ONE bad experience causes men to spend the rest of their lives avoiding that feeling of shame and weakness ever again. And yes, I agree that women experience shame and moments of embarrassment as well, but I do think it’s harder for men to overcome their shame. So next time, you overhear someone telling a little boy to man up just to shut him up, remember that it’s also shutting him down. My main point is about respect and loving each other equally, not putting one group over the next or demeaning one for the sake of the other. Hopefully, one day in our society we will be able to come together on mutual terms and remember that at the end of the day we’re all humans.
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Tuesday, February 14, 2017
Man Up - Bria Phillips
In this week’s listing of articles, I enjoyed reading the article Shame-O-Phobia by David Wexler. This article really brought a new perspective into the course of women’s studies. We often push aside the male point of views and deem them as being unwanted and invalid in attempt to only hear about women’s opinions and issues. It was interesting to see that the things women are “expected” to do, or things women do not think twice about are the same things that men are ashamed to do openly. The author brought up a good point about men having feelings, but they are not able to put them into words or actions, because they weren’t trained to do so. When was the last time someone called a little girl a cry baby or told her that she’s not supposed cry in front of other people? So why have we continued to do so with little boys? This only causes deep rooted issues that travel along with them into adulthood, and makes them want to be seen as macho. So much so that they lose sight of reality because they are so deep into their own fantasy world of trying to prove themselves and remain as manly as possible. He stated that ONE bad experience causes men to spend the rest of their lives avoiding that feeling of shame and weakness ever again. And yes, I agree that women experience shame and moments of embarrassment as well, but I do think it’s harder for men to overcome their shame. So next time, you overhear someone telling a little boy to man up just to shut him up, remember that it’s also shutting him down. My main point is about respect and loving each other equally, not putting one group over the next or demeaning one for the sake of the other. Hopefully, one day in our society we will be able to come together on mutual terms and remember that at the end of the day we’re all humans.
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